Tuesday, March 18, 2008

By Debbie Whiteaker

Over the years I've heard the same story time and again. A woman's agonizing decision…to go on a cruising adventure with her husband or significant other or to stay in her nest where she can be available to her children, grandchildren, or elderly parents. A woman's obligatory feelings toward her family are often much stronger than those of her male counterpart. It's just born into most of us to be there and be available anytime these people need us. But there is this yearning for many of us to go on an adventure. To spend time on a boat cruising the world with our partner…discovering new things, eating new food, meeting new and exciting people, and enjoying the breath taking scenery we usually only see in photographs. Letting go and taking that big step onboard that boat and shoving off for ports unknown is so hard. But if you look at it from a different point of view it could make it much easier decision.

The Simple Life
I lived aboard and cruised for three years. I was apprehensive but hopeful during the early stages of letting go. We sold our house and all the furnishings. I went through all the "stuff" and only kept the most precious things. There were many trips to Goodwill to drop off "stuff". There were Yard Sales to sell "stuff". Finally I was down to a small collection of "stuff" that I couldn't possibly part with. For that we bought a small storage building and located it beside my parent's house. It was a nice arrangement. Then we loaded the rest of the "stuff" that we couldn't possibly live without into the back seat and trunk of our car and headed to Florida to live on our 40' Island Packet Sailboat. What a wonderful drive that was. How liberating!  How light I felt. I could almost float because the weight of all that "stuff" had been removed. Simple life aboard a sailboat awaited. No yard work. And what about housework? Believe me it doesn't take nearly as long to clean a 40' sailboat as it does a house.  Of course there's boat maintenance but my husband would do most of that and besides it's small in comparison to maintaining a house.
For many years we would hold the promise of spending weekends on the boat as the carrot on the stick that helped us get through the week and now we lived full time on the boat. Yes, I liked it just fine… I made my nest on the boat.

The Grieving & The Guilt Trip
OK, so there was the grieving of giving up my home and saying goodbye to my family. I had lived in the same place my whole life. I had lived in three different counties and they all bordered each other. So this was a big change.  My mother cried when we left. And, yes I was on a major guilt trip for awhile. At the time she and my father were still in good health so it was actually a good time to have this adventure. But I had never lived that far from home so it was hard. I couldn't be available if they needed me on short notice and vice versa. But the timing seemed right. They were in pretty good health at the time although about a year and half into the adventure my father was diagnosed with cancer. He lived for four years so I was available toward the end when I was most needed. However, even if they had not been in great health, I think I still would have gone. I had decided that I (and more importantly my husband) deserved this time. Sometimes you just have to put yourself first.

Maybe even more troubling than leaving my parents was leaving our three sons. However, they were all comfortably installed in college. They had been living away from home for a couple of years already. They were all grown up now and could take care of themselves just fine, right? But do we ever stop being Mamas? I don't think so. But here again was the thought; I deserve this time. I had been there through diapers, kindergarten, karate class, football practice, student council trips, etc. It was time for an adventure and I was going to put myself first just this once.  And thankfully for me there were no grandchildren yet, I don't know if I could have handled that one.

The Metamorphosis
So did the adventure change me? Yes, it definitely did and for the good.  Change often brings new vitality to your life. Change opens new doors to parts of you that you never knew existed. Perhaps one of the most unexpected things was that I developed a renewed appreciation for being in the great outdoors. I realized how much of my recent life had been spent all cooped up inside. I found myself enjoying the stars at night again. I found out how much I loved the smell of the ocean. I developed a new appreciation for tropical plants and the warm tropical breeze on my face. And then there was the wonderful experience of meeting new and different people and learning about their way of life.  Eating new and different foods or learning how to prepare the old ones in a new way. And of course I gained confidence because this life is definitely not a bed of roses. I learned that I was tougher than I thought. I learned I could do things I never thought possible. And most importantly I learned this one very important thing. After all the guilt trips I put myself through; worrying about leaving my parents and my children. Was I being an ungrateful daughter? Was I being a bad mother? No, I was taking some well deserved time to be a good and caring friend to myself. And in the end I actually gave those loved ones in my life a very nice gift… a new and improved me. I returned to them a more independent, secure and well rounded person. I returned a better daughter and a better mother and of course, I'll have some wonderful stories to tell the grandkids.

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 Friday, February 22, 2008
Hauling out for a survey
Hauling out for a survey

"When Selling Your Yacht"

At first glance selling your yacht privately may seem like a relatively easy and inexpensive way to go. But consider the following…

A professional yacht brokerage like Whiteaker Yacht Sales will advertise your yacht in a wide array of sites and media locations. They have the tools to get the maximum exposure included in a multiple listing system, client databases, print advertising, internet advertising, co-brokerage potential and industry contacts. A good yacht broker will be able to customize the advertising program to get the most attention for your yacht. Knowing the industry and knowing which internet sites and which boating publications to advertise your boat in is very important. This can be very expensive and time consuming proposition if you are trying to sell privately. Now consider the multiple listing system. Close to 75% of yacht transactions are cooperative sales through other yacht brokers. Through worldwide multiple listing services and other marketing networks, a broker has the tools to maximize exposure to your yacht.

Brokers are educated about how to price and market your yacht. They can recommend methods to make your yacht more presentable to the market thereby making it more desirable to the public. They will be able to give you information about the current market and help price your yacht accordingly. A broker can save you time and headaches by qualifying the prospective buyers. Experience has taught them to be able to size up the buyer and determine whether he is a serious shopper looking to make a purchase now or someone with a long term dream of someday making a purchase (usually when he wins the lottery). A broker will be the middle man, helping to negotiate a fair price for your yacht. He can help you evaluate a buyer's proposal without compromising your marketing position.

A well educated and experienced broker is a good closer. He can help resolve those unexpected results that almost always arise after a survey by either negotiating a price concession or helping you to coordinate and complete repair requests.
And finally he's there to make sure the closing process goes smoothly. He'll help coordinate all the necessary paperwork making sure the process is completed in a reputable and legal manner. He'll be responsible for escrowing the deposit and accepting and distributing the final payment to all parties involved.

In the long run a broker may actually save you both time and money. He’s experienced at negotiating the best possible price. He'll be able to sell your yacht sooner thereby saving you months of dockage fees, insurance premiums, and maintenance costs.  He’ll save you time by qualifying buyers and saving you the aggravation of showing the yacht over and over to buyers not suited to the vessel or not yet ready to make a purchase.

"When Buying a Yacht"

At any given moment there are thousands of yachts on the market…where do you start trying to track down that perfect one for you. Professional yacht brokers like the ones you'll find at Whiteaker Yacht Sales have an extensive database of yachts and because of their many contacts may even be able to find those not yet on the market. They can save you hours of search time allowing you the leisure of taking your time and making the perfect choice. He’s experienced at asking the right questions to help determine what is and is not important to you thereby assuring you're happy with your selection.

A professional yacht broker knows the current market. He knows when it's up and when it down. He can advise you on where to start with your initial offer and will negotiate on your behalf to get the best possible price. He can also be the middle man thereby preserving the relationship between buyer and seller. This is very important as it can be very valuable to maintain a good post-purchase relationship with the seller so that he will be available to answer questions and help with any problems that may arise after the sale is finalized.

Once you have decided on the yacht you want and have negotiated a price, it's time to place a deposit. A broker will be able to escrow your deposit assuring you that it will be held in a secure manner and will be fully available to be refunded to you if the deal is not completed. He will also accept and hold the final payment and will be responsible for distributing the funds correctly including making sure any outstanding mortgages are paid thereby assuring you of clear title to the vessel.

A reputable broker will always recommend you survey and sea trial the boat. Part of his service to you is to recommend the extent of the survey and to help identify the best surveyors in the area. He will not select a surveyor for you but should be able to provide you with a list of good qualified surveyors to choose from. He will coordinate the scheduling of the survey date so that it fits the schedule of all parties involved. He will help book the haul out of the vessel for bottom inspection. And finally he will attend the survey and be available to provide a buffer between buyer and seller on this very important day. He should be able to help you interpret the survey findings and make meaningful recommendations.

A good broker is up to date on all facets of the industry including financing, insurance, dockage, captains, and shipping companies. He will be able to recommend good reputable people in all these areas once again saving you time and energy in searching all the areas that will come into play during the buying process.

Finally the broker will coordinate all the paperwork necessary for a yacht sale closing including Bills of Sale, Warranty of Title, etc. He will be able to refer you to reputable Documentation Companies who can assist you with the sometimes complicated documentation process. He will be responsible for collecting the appropriate sales tax or advising you on the tax laws of the region where the purchase is taking place.

In Closing… Whether selling or buying, a professional yacht broker will be able to assure a smooth process with the end result being a stress free and profitable experience for both seller and buyer.

Friday, February 22, 2008 5:12:47 PM (GMT Standard Time, UTC+00:00)  #    Disclaimer  |  Comments [0]  |  Trackback
 Wednesday, January 09, 2008
Gary Monnell joins Whiteaker Yacht Sales
Gary Monnell joins Whiteaker Yacht Sales

Whiteaker Yacht Sales has two reasons to celebrate at the beginning of 2008. They have just opened a new office in the Riverwalk Professional Park at 100 3rd Avenue West in Bradenton. And if that wasn’t enough, they are also happy to announce the addition of Gary Monnell to their staff. Gary will be managing the new Bradenton Office.  Many of you will know Gary from his 15 years of providing excellent service to the yachting community at Carson Yacht Sales. "We’re very excited about the prospects for our company's growth in 2008" say owners, Ed and Debbie Whiteaker. "We're really happy to have the new office up and running in an excellent location".




Wednesday, January 09, 2008 11:27:14 PM (GMT Standard Time, UTC+00:00)  #    Disclaimer  |  Comments [0]  |  Trackback